I'm writing this note because I feel a big mixture of emotions. I have a beautiful sister who is very intelligent and gifted. She hasn't made the wisest decisions to set herself up to succeed in adult life, but she's overcome most of those decisions. She is a living testament to how a person's commitment to excel can shock people who think high school dropouts can't do anything in life.
Tonight she told me she is pregnant, but she didn't want to tell me because I might be upset. I'll be honest; there are too many emotions running around inside me to be upset. I'm thrilled that there's a new life and that our daughter will actually have cousins on my side of the family. (Ben told me he and Lynn decided not to have children, though I hope that doesn't last.) I'm relieved that my sister won't experience the pain of infertility and the cost of trying to find treatment. I'm shocked that she lives at home with my mother, her boyfriend still lives with his parents, and they're making adult decisions like having sex without facing the adult responsibility of bringing a new generation into the planet. I'm hopeful that she's going to continue working to finish her diploma. I'm anxious that her current educational status will limit her career and family. I'm scared that her boyfriend might not commit to helping her raise this child, leaving my sister to face single motherhood at the age of 20. I'm bothered that she still hasn't been to a doctor and that she has no insurance, living in the US. I'm hurt that my sister still feels like she has to act perfect around me - a side effect, I'm afraid, of my over-involvement in her upbringing. Finally, I'm emotionally spent while I think about what this means for her and the family down south. This is exciting news, but I'm very concerned.
LE
5 comments:
Praying for you, that God would use you...
... and for her, that God would be glorified!
I think that your feelings are very normal and I think that you are a great big brother- I can see that in the way you write about her.
I'm sory to hear about your sister. Is she aware, though, that she can obtain Medicaid which will pay for her whole pregnancy and the baby's first year of life, simply because she's pregnant with no insurance and single? I'd highly recommend you tell her if she doesn't already know! An easy way for her to apply for aid is to just call her local WIC office! That's how we've always done it!
we love you Lynn and pray that God will help you through it.
my sister got pregnant at 20 also. I know EXACTLY how you are feeling. The best thing i can tell you is, once she had her son she a few years later came and invited the Lord to live in her heart b/c having her son opened her eyes to what a miracle life is :)
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